The Grass is Not Greener

When a relationship is fresh every thing seems to be rosy and sweet. Everything goes well and in a smooth way and you are happy with each other and in deep love. There is romance, love and excitement. With the passage of time all that love, romance and excitement vanishes away and you are left with conflicts, arguments and bitterness. You are disappointed with each other and feel that you cannot stay together anymore and need to start with a new relationship need to be with a new person who will make your life better.

Generally what happens is that with the passage of time the marriage of a person loses the romance and love which existed initially. The couples are no more that same lovers and do change over the period of time. You stop loving like romantic lovers and become very boring couples. There is no excitement and thrill left in your married life.

Most of us are fascinated by others. We strongly believe that if we come into a relationship with that other person our life will be filled with love and passion. We often feel that in the new relationship we will love each other for ever and the life will be filled with joy and excitement. There will be no fights, no arguments and only love, just perfect for each other. But this is really not the scene. Every thing looks green on the other side but actually is not. There is a lot of hard work to be put into a relationship to keep it happy and strong. Each and every relationship goes through it shades of gray and couples have to overcome that. You feel that if you move into a new relationship things will change for you again. You feel that life will be filled with love and passion as before when you came into the present relationship initially. And you decide to separate and move to a new relationship. Here you need to understand that when a relationship is fresh everything is new and exciting, you do not have complains from each other and there is lots of love, affection and passion. But with the passage of time that love, passion, and excitement fades. This is not only the case with your relationship but with most of the relationships. After a certain period of time nearly all the relationships loose that freshness and charm but that does not mean that the relationship should come to an end. With the passage of time people change and mature and the meaning of love and passion changes too. It does not mean that the love has faded from your relationship but that love has changed it form. Love becomes mature and responsible with passage of time and is no more that teenage love. You should realize this and not think that the new relationship you intend to start will be fresh as ever.

It is only when one of the partners is abusive or physically harms you then you need to definitely think of getting into a new relationship otherwise if things are normal you need to work on your relationship as everything changes with time.

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