Not In the Mood for Love?

Nothing can bring two people who truly care about one another mentally and physically together more than lovemaking. Passion can grow in your marriage; all it takes is a little planning and imagination. Avoid the dwindling love lives of other married couples. Take action now.

Honesty is the foundation to great sex. Both partners must be true to themselves and honest to their partners to get the most out of sex. Despite the passing of time and growth of culture, there is still an old adage that exists. It believes that women need love to get in the mood for sex, while men need sex to be able to get in love. Parts of this adage go on and provide some truths. Because women need “love” before sex – their needs are rooted in honesty a little more than that in men. Women need to know how they feel and be able to express when and how they want to make love by telling their husband.

When it comes to choosing the right time for lovemaking with your husband, here are four “don’ts”:

1. If you aren’t physically able to make love, don’t. By creating a sense that you must have sex, you will gradually begin to lose the want to have sex. Further more, if sex becomes a “duty” this will do nothing more than distract the positive feelings you have for your husband. Instead of acting when your inner feelings are against it, simply and honestly explain to your husband that you cannot. Explain that you appreciate his urges and desires and pick a targeted time and place to make love in the future.

2. Avoid criticizing your husband if he decides to try something new that doesn’t quite work so well for you. Variety is important to men, and it can be a very vulnerable thing for a man to even approach. So avoid slashing his confidence with criticism.

3. If your mind is somewhere else don’t have sex with your husband. Choose a better place and time. Whether it was just a bad day at the office, problems with the kids, friends, or money – just give it time. Your honesty will be much appreciated and won’t deter your will to make love when your mind is clear.

4. Never use resentment as a weapon to avoid having sex with your husband. Look back at number three. If you go too far and use your daily problems against your husband it will instantly put a hard lock to pick on your love life. Instead focus on communication and honesty. Find ways to talk about not having sex, and the times to have sex will begin to stack up.

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