The truth about men part 2

This Menaissance will herald the rebirth of the Sacred Masculine: men who are proud to be men and who are able – and allowed - to integrate body and mind with emotions and spirit and are not judged for that either as ‘weak men’ or ‘sissies’; men who, despite the challenges, do not betray either sex but understand their unique place in the web of life.

These ‘new men’ will know their truth and stand up for what they believe in, using love and compassion as their guides to action in the knowledge that these are the basic principles of all human beings and no one gender controls them.

Think of the difference it might make to the world if men were allowed to embrace these principles, to be shown how to, and to be respected for doing so instead of “pathologised” and judged in terms of a myth which says they’re incapable.

The first stage in this Menaissance is to restore balance. That might mean questioning our basic assumptions and finding the truths behind our myths and stereotypes – such as the all-pervading myth of the goddess which has become so popular in our culture and which says that women are gentle, caring, frail, defenceless, loving creatures and that men are there to protect them – when they’re not being violent towards them.

Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love, for example, is one of the archetypes often used and whose qualities women are encouraged to embrace and men are told to accept. What is rarely taught, however, is the origin of “foam-arisen” Aphrodite, who was born when her father’s penis was cast into the sea and from whose waves Aphrodite arose. In symbolic terms, the sea is the vagina, the waters of life, and the myth of Aphrodite therefore says that men are the creators since the first action was the penis entering the sea. In more prosaic and egalitarian terms we might put it this way: that women are nothing without men (and vice versa). We are equal (or should be!) and we need each other for our species to survive.

The next stage is for men to rediscover their own gods and heroes: people they can look up to, whose qualities they can embrace, and who will not betray them for speaking and living their truths. The mythologist Joseph Campbell wrote in The Hero with a Thousand Faces that there is a hero’s journey in every man, which acts as his initiation into manhood: “A hero ventures forth from the world of common day into a region of supernatural wonder: fabulous forces are there encountered and a decisive victory is won: the hero comes back from this mysterious adventure with the power to bestow boons on his fellow man”.

The journey has a number of steps to it:

1. A “call to adventure”, which the hero must accept or decline

2. A “road of trials” on which the hero succeeds or fails

3. Achieving the goal or "boon", which results in new self-awareness and knowledge

4. A “return to the ordinary world”, and finally

5. The “application of the boon” – the gift of insight the hero has gained - to improve the world around him

In plain terms: men must decide to act, to stand up for themselves, to explore their truths, to face the challenges of being a man - and to challenge others who deny them their journey by perpetuating the myths which leave them cowed.

Those who accept the challenge will have trials and tests of their character and determination, but if they pass them they will achieve new powers, strengths, and depths of understanding. They can then return to their lives with a new sense of who they are and the importance they have for the world. And then, to the benefit of us all, they can shine as men who stand for justice, order, balance, and truth.

The battle cry of the Knights Templar was “Be Glorious!” and this is what it means to be a real man: to be all that we can and do all that we can to bring peace to ourselves and to this troubled world. It is also the mark of a hero.

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