EFT for Inner Conflicts

EMPLOYING EFT ON EACH SUB-PERSONALITY INDIVIDUALLY

Attention: If this work becomes disturbing or confusing, and thus it is best done with the help of a EFT professional experienced in this type of analysis, dialoguing and psychodrama.

Before moving on to perform the EFT, it would be beneficial to fill out the following questionnaire which will help us establish a clearer understanding of which personas we want to reconcile and what their real needs, emotions and beliefs are.

Analyzing our Conflicting Personas

Now separately, for each conflicting part of yourself, answer the following questions.

a. For Part "A", which I have named __________________________

1. Its has the following needs, desires and attachments
________________________________________________________

2. When its needs are not fulfilled, it has the following emotions: ________________________________________________________

3. It has the following feelings ____________________________towards "Part "B" which I have named _________________.

4. Toward the part of me labeled "A" and named _______________________, I personally experience the following feelings.__________________________

Now for the other part of ourselves

b. For Part "B", which I have named _________________________

1. Its has the following needs, desires and attachments
________________________________________________________

4. When its needs are not fulfilled, it has the following emotions: ________________________________________________________

5. It has the following feelings ____________________________towards "Part "A" which I have named _________________.

4. Toward the part of me labeled "B" and named _______________________, I personally experience the following feelings.__________________________

Having established this information, we are now ready to employ EFT for the following.

1. The emotions which each part has when it does not get what it wants, or fears not getting what it wants.

2. The emotions which it has towards the other part of ourselves.

3. The emotions which we have towards each part.

Let take a few examples.

LOSE WEIGHT OR EAT WHAT AND AS MUCH AS I WANT?

Say one part of use wants to lose weight or create a healthier body and the other wants to eat whatever and whenever it likes.

Let us call part A, "health conscious" and part B, "pleasure seeking".

So we try to answer the above questions.

1. About what part ¨"A" – The Health Conscious one feels:

Some answers might be:

a. Shame or self-rejection because of extra weight.
b. Self-rejection because of lack of discipline.
c. Helplessness because cannot succeed.
d. Fear of illness.
e. Anger at those who remind him/her of his/her problem.
f. Anger at the part of ourselves that refuses to be disciplined.
g. Fear of what others think about us.
h. Jealous of others because they have better appearance or more discipline than we do.
i. Disillusioned or depression because we have tired so much without success.

We would then employ EFT on each of these emotions and any others, which surfaced while working.

So our phrases might be something like this.

A. Even though I feel (the emotion) _______ (perhaps guilt, shame, self-rejection, self-doubt, unworthy, belittled, demeaned) because am overweight, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Or

Even though I feel (the emotion) _______ (perhaps guilt, shame, self-rejection, self-doubt, unworthy, belittled, demeaned) because am unable to discipline my eating, I deeply and profoundly love myself.

Even though I feel (the emotion) __________because I have been until now unable to discipline my eating, I am joyfully doing so now.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (emotion) ______.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) when / because _____ (reason)

In this way we free the Body Conscious part from all of its negative emotions so that it has greater clarity on this issue and can make more objective choices.

2. Then we do the same for part "B", the Pleasure Seeker.

What feelings might it have when it does not get what it wants?

Some possibilities are:

a. Suppressed when it cannot eat as it likes.
b. Anxiety when it does not get its "dose".
c. Sadness because it does not have its source of happiness and comfort.
d. Anger at those who suppress him/her.
e. Self-destruction so that it can keep up eating.
f. Fear of being controlled.
g. Fear of not having pleasure – joy.
h. Jealous towards those who can eat whatever they like.
i. Depression because there is no joy without food.

We would then employ EFT on each of these emotions and any others, which surfaced while working.

So our phrases might be something like this.

A. Even though I feel (the emotion) _______ when I cannot eat whatever I like, I deeply and profoundly love myself.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (emotion) ______.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) when / because _____ (reason)

In this way we can work with any inner conflict. We simply need to understand the emotions, which each part has when it does not get, or thinks of not getting what it needs, desires or wants.

Have in mind at all times others aspects such as deeper needs and feelings as well as childhood experiences, which may come up. Work with them and then return to the original issues until both parts of your self are free to reconcile with each other without fear and other negative emotions.

Try to be objective and not reject one or the other part of yourself.

A few more examples.

BE IN A CONSCIOUS LOVE RELATIONSHIP OR BE ALONE

1. The part, which wants to be in the relationship, may feel the following emotions when that need is not fulfilled.

a. Loneliness because there is no one to be intimate with.
b. Frustration because of lack of intimate physical contact.
c. Injustice because we are alone.
d. Unhappy without the pleasure of a love partner.
e. Alienated from the others, because they are together.
f. Jealous towards those who have happy relationships.

2. The part, which prefers not to be committed to a love relationship, may feel the following when that need is intimidated.

a. Fear of losing our freedom
b. Fear of being hurt.
c. Fear of being abandoned.
d. Fear that of the other knows us well, s/he will not want to be with us.
e. Fear of being vulnerable.

STAY IN MY PRESENT JOB OR CHANGE IT

1. The part which wants to stay in our present job might feel the following emotions when it thinks about leaving

a. Insecurity whether we will make it financially.
b. Fear that we will not find what we want.
c. Fear that we might regret doing this.
d. Fear of how others will perceive us if we do not succeed in our new effort.
e. Fear of making a mistake

2. The part which would like to move on to another job might feel some of the following emotions when it thinks about staying indefinitely at our present job.

a. Boredom and lack of interest
b. Suppression that we have to do something which does not fulfill us anymore.
c. Injustice that we cannot do what we really want to do with out lives.
d. Self-rejection because we do not have the "guts" to leave.
e. Jealousy towards those who have jobs which they love.
f. Anger with those who in some way are "preventing" us from leaving.

When we work with inner conflicts in this way, we free each part of ourselves from our conflicting emotions and natural healthy solutions will flow effortlessly to the surface.

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