Do Sexless Marriages Have To Lead To Divorce?

If your sexless marriage is causing you great concern, you may think that the problem is impossible to deal with and going to a divorce lawyer seems inevitable but this is not always the case. Sexless marriages are the cause of a lot of marital unhappiness and finding a solution may not be easy and will require a great deal of thought before you even consider getting a divorce lawyer.

A sexless marriage can:

Make you feel extremely lonely.

Damage your confidence and self-esteem.

Make you feel restless and confused.

Make you feel depressed.

You will have to discover the root causes of why your marriage is now sexless when it used to be loving, romantic and sexually satisfying. Marriage without sex is bad but married sex without feelings is just as bad.

Your sexless marriage could be caused by a physical problem or mental illness in which case medical help should be sought.

These are a number of other reasons for why a marriage is now sexless.

(1) You are "stuck at home" while your partner works long hours

When one partner is working very long hours and the other stays at home feeling ignored and lonely then it is very common for the person stuck at home to take out their frustrations on their partner by withdrawing from sex as a type of silent protest. This can become an entrenched attitude, which is hard to break once it has started.

(2) You both work long hours.

If both you and your partner have time-consuming and demanding careers you will seldom get the opportunity to spend time together and end up like the proverbial ‘ships that pass in the night’. The problem then is not one of loneliness and frustration for one of you but simply lack of time together which can cause you to drift apart emotionally and sexually.

You must decide what is more important, your marriage or your work and try to find some way of re-scheduling your lives so that you do not drift apart simply by not seeing enough of each other.

(3)Other reasons for your sexless marriage.

You need to think of some other possible reasons for why you no longer feel sexually attracted to your partner such as:

You no longer find them attractive.

They don't show you any emotions.

They are dishonest and untruthful with you.

They are selfish and lazy.

They are abusive and disrespectful toward you.

They do not listen to your problems.

There are lots of other reasons why a marriage is sexless but all of the above can be a reason why you avoid sex with your partner and thus create strain on your marriage.

Marriage counseling may eventually be needed to help you discover what the problem is and help you to restore the intimacy you once held so dear.

If you do not address the problems in your sexless marriage then the problems could lead you into the arms of someone else… a divorce lawyer.

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