What Can I Do When I Find Myself in the "Victim," Mode

Question to Paularyo:

What can I do when I find myself in the "victim" mode?

Message from Paularyo:

Dear One,

Your heart holds the energy of your soul. It also hold the energy of your yearnings. These energies reside together because it is your yearnings which propel you along your path of soul growth.

Yearning can be interpreted as "victim" when your left brain tries to make sense of an emotion which is in your heart. Your left brain wants to categorize and then "fix" emotions that appear to indicate there is something lacking in your life. So...the emotion of "yearning" is interpreted as "lacking" which leads you into the "victim mode."

Permit us to give you an example. Your heart may be yearning for loving behavior from another. When you feel in victim mode due to the behavior of this being, you have created expectations. Expectations imply your desire to control the path of others. My dear, when you feel yourself as a victim, you are in your head, desiring control. You enter circular thinking...where nothing is resolved.

You can return to your heart and send energy to this being. You can send the energy of love...imagine that now...send the energy of love to someone of whom you have been having expectations. What happens?

You feel the compassion for yourself and for that person, which brings your body into a state of peace.

Now send expectation to that person...expectation for that person to behave in a specific way. How does it feel to you?

It brings tension to your body and mind.

How do you imagine it feels to that person? The person can feel, perhaps at a subconscious level, this energy of expectation from you.

When you transform your head's energy of expectation into your heart's energy of love...you move from dis-ease to ease...you heal yourself in that moment. You know in your heart that you only have control over yourself. You can only change yourself. Only you can heal yourself.

Imagine that you are in your heart in this moment...knowing that the feeling of yearning is the precursor to soul growth. Now ask your soul, "What is your message to me in this moment?" Then be still. Clear you mind. Remain in your heart.

Allow your soul's energy to speak to you from your heart. Listen to your heart. Words of wisdom bubble up and provide you with your Soul's Guidance. Allow yourself to write down what you hear, or feel, or "know" from your heart.

My dear, walk the path of understanding your heart's yearnings, using them to spark your soul growth. Walk the path of healing. Walk the Spiritual Path of Being.

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

© Connie Russert September 2004 Tools for Transformation

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Connie Russert, M.S. Spirit Channel Connie@ToolsforTransformation.com www.ToolsforTransformation.com 619.226.0351 San Diego, CA

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