Life's Passion-Part 3

Scott, let’s say one of these examples happened to you as an adolescent or as a pre-adult. Let’s say for example purposes that you were experimenting with yourself with sex. You were feeling these inward urges of sexuality and you gave yourself permission to explore sex. Maybe you began to play with your sexual organs and you found that this play was enjoyable. It was fun. It was exhilarating and had a passion attached to it…in inward energy to express it was present… and so you explored it with great fervor and desire. Maybe, one day while having some time on your hands and thinking you were all alone you decided to express this sexuality again, only this time without your knowing, someone was to walk in on you, while you were exploring.

Maybe this was your mom who came home from work earlier than normal only to find you expressing this sexuality to yourself. How would that make you feel my beloved? Embarrassed God. Scott, why would you be embarrassed by a gift of God? Because I was never told it was a gift, but rather a sin. In fact not only would I be told it was a sin, but I would be told it was homosexuality, and that homosexuality was punishable by eternal death. And, Scott how do you think an event like this would affect you, if your sexuality was repressed, and spoken of as sin, and even punishable by eternal damnation of your soul? It would make me feel terrible God. It would also make me go “underground” in expressing my biological urges and sexuality.

Yes, it would Scott. This “underground” word that you use is appropriate here…and you would live with this embarrassment and it would be carried into your adult psyche and would affect your life completely. Let’s roll the cameras back on time now Scott and let’s assume this experience did indeed happen to you where you were exploring your sexuality and your mom, un-announced, walked in on your sexual experimentation. Let’s say that she actually witnessed this experimentation. She might have be startled by your expression but instead of saying anything that would make you feel bad, let’s say that instead, she gently closed the door to your room and walked away. She waited for you to emerge from your room, and you might have been embarrassed, just by the fact of your nakedness and your sexual expression having been exposed to her.

God, I would still be embarrassed. Yes and what if your mom was to take you aside and decided to help you with your sexuality instead of degrading it? That would have been helpful I am sure. Yes, it would. So, instead of beating you up for your expression, she instead encouraged you in it in a helpful encouraging way. So, let’s re-roll the cameras back on this event, you emerge from your room feeling kind of embarrassed as you say.

Your mom then begins to talk to you and say… “Let’s go have a soda pop you and me.” For which you returned the conversation by saying… Sure. You immediately assume she is going to go after your sexuality and its expression…as something negative. She takes you to a fun place that you have eaten at before to have a pop with you. She begins the conversation in this way… “Scott, you are growing up aren’t you? You would say, yea, I guess so. Scott, I want you to know that what I witnessed today you should not be embarrassed by it. She would then apologize to you by saying… I am sorry for walking in on you without pre-warning into your private room. I actually was unaware of you being home at the time…but I should have pre-announced my coming so as to not embarrass you. I am so sorry for waling in on your expression of sexuality. Scott, this is such a wonderful gift, the gift of sexuality, that I would love to open up a dialogue with you around it…is that okay with you? You would then give consent to open up the dialogue. Your mom might open up to you by talking about her first sexual experience as a young adult, and how she had learned from her friends, how to experiment with sex herself. She would then tell you how great the feelings were and how they gave her joy and also had fun attached to these feelings. She might even tell you there were some feelings of guilt around her sexuality too. She would tell you about how great this gift of God was in the expression of your sexuality and it was in preparation for you someday having a lover of your own, whereby you could express this deep expression of love, to each other.

Then she would talk perhaps of how her friends tell her about the “other” side of sex, and how it is “dirty”, or “naughty” and a thing to be hidden from your parents, or something to be ashamed of, and something that one should sneak around in the dark with. Then she would say that these urges were biological and perfectly normal for anyone to feel, and that if you did not feel or sense them, you would still be inclined to experiment with this great gift of God. She would tell you that experimentation with sex was normal and that every child experiments in one form or another with their own sexuality. She would tell you how this great gift of sexuality actually came from God for our enjoyment and fulfillment as human beings. She would tell you also that it had to be handled with caution though because that is how you were made, and that is the way babies are made. She would tell you that you were an expression of their love-making and commitment that they had to one another, and that you were the beautiful gift of God to them through this expression of their sexuality.

She would tell you that sex is not sick, or sinful, but perfectly natural, but that it also had to be handled with great care and love. That sex was not just for personal satisfaction only, but it was also a gift to be able to reproduce yourself in your offspring, or children. Not, that pleasuring yourself was of any sin, or consequence, in fact, it was perfectly normal and fun to engage sexually. She would tell you that your sexuality when expressed with love and care, was of great benefit to the world, and that the world would not be as fun of a place to live without this great gift. This gift could not be forced upon another without their total consent and happiness as it also had great power to hurt and to harm. This was to be a consensual agreement between two consenting adults who were aware of the consequences of pregnancy.

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