Deliver Your Truths With Love
Practicing the breathing and meditation daily or whenever you can
may help you become more grounded and in touch with what is going on in
and around you. I find that I am peaceful after meditation or breathing
The problem I find is that all too often when we face the world we
have to deal with people who do not share our truths or values, people who
are still caught up with the physical and material. People who want to
validate their opinions so much so that they undermine anything they don't
Whether it is their truth or just an unfounded opinion is not my
It belongs to them. I find speaking my own truths difficult as it is not
my mission to change anyone's mind about anything, but sometimes I have
something to say because I see things differently. There's nothing worse
than dealing with Mr. or Mrs. Miserable, the people who would walk through
you on the street or just those who have no regard for anyone. They
glorify in others misfortune and feel superior for their well being and
luck. I find this difficult to understand, Why don't people see the bigger
picture? I have to remind myself that I do not walk in their shoes and I
try to have empathy and compassion for them. They are dealing with their
own insecurities and probably looking for validation. Living in the spirit
does not need anyone's validation.
I always want to speak up when I see an injustice or imbalance in a
situation but more often I hold my piece for fear of condemnation or the
re-action I may receive if I did speak up. This causes me even more
anguish because I was constantly holding back. What I have learned is that
if I stop, take a deep breath and deliver my truth in Love, it is received
by the other in a different way. I do not undermine them, nor do I
dictate, I only speak with respect and love. By doing this I can refrain
from taking on the responsibility for how the other reacts.
So many situations become angry and hostile, voices are raised and
things become personal, so many times I have done this only to feel
horrible later. If I shout then I am losing control, if I scream my truth
I am forcing it on someone else. This is not my mission. If I speak
gently, calmly and clearly and communicate my words with love, then that
is all I can do. Leave the other's emotional reactions to them.
All too often, we
examine ourselves and feel ultimately responsible for how someone else
feels in the situation, and after we have spoken we blame ourselves for
causing them upset. Am I so powerful? I can not make anyone feel anything,
I can only bring them the opportunity. The words are only triggers causing
them to deal with something that they haven't looked at. They may not want
to and this has facilitated their irritation.
They are more
comfortable judging everyone else instead. It's easier to do this, but you
see when you judge someone, you are in fact judging yourself and this also
takes away your peace. Judging a situation is appropriate for one to self
protect but not for one to demean or try to have power over another, there
is no benefit in this, only upset and disharmony.
Next time you feel you are not been listened to or unappreciated,
stop and remember who you are and what you want to achieve. Instead of
shouting to be heard, try saying "I feel that you are not listening to me
and I am a little upset". or "What you did just really hurt my
feelings", the response you receive is what you can work with.
or encounter you have with someone is a learning experience. No matter how
rude or inconsiderate they are, they are in your life for a reason. You
can learn to love the person, but not their action. When you separate the
two you are not swept away with the emotional burden nor do you attach
yourself to unhealthy situations or relationships.
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