Deliver Your Truths With Love

   Practicing the breathing and meditation daily or whenever you can may help you become more grounded and in touch with what is going on in and around you. I find that I am peaceful after meditation or breathing exercises.

   The problem I find is that all too often when we face the world we have to deal with people who do not share our truths or values, people who are still caught up with the physical and material. People who want to validate their opinions so much so that they undermine anything they don't agree with.

   Whether it is their truth or just an unfounded opinion is not my concern. It belongs to them. I find speaking my own truths difficult as it is not my mission to change anyone's mind about anything, but sometimes I have something to say because I see things differently. There's nothing worse than dealing with Mr. or Mrs. Miserable, the people who would walk through you on the street or just those who have no regard for anyone. They glorify in others misfortune and feel superior for their well being and luck. I find this difficult to understand, Why don't people see the bigger picture? I have to remind myself that I do not walk in their shoes and I try to have empathy and compassion for them. They are dealing with their own insecurities and probably looking for validation. Living in the spirit does not need anyone's validation.

   I always want to speak up when I see an injustice or imbalance in a situation but more often I hold my piece for fear of condemnation or the re-action I may receive if I did speak up. This causes me even more anguish because I was constantly holding back. What I have learned is that if I stop, take a deep breath and deliver my truth in Love, it is received by the other in a different way. I do not undermine them, nor do I dictate, I only speak with respect and love. By doing this I can refrain from taking on the responsibility for how the other reacts.

   So many situations become angry and hostile, voices are raised and things become personal, so many times I have done this only to feel horrible later. If I shout then I am losing control, if I scream my truth I am forcing it on someone else. This is not my mission. If I speak gently, calmly and clearly and communicate my words with love, then that is all I can do. Leave the other's emotional reactions to them.

   All too often, we examine ourselves and feel ultimately responsible for how someone else feels in the situation, and after we have spoken we blame ourselves for causing them upset. Am I so powerful? I can not make anyone feel anything, I can only bring them the opportunity. The words are only triggers causing them to deal with something that they haven't looked at. They may not want to and this has facilitated their irritation.

   They are more comfortable judging everyone else instead. It's easier to do this, but you see when you judge someone, you are in fact judging yourself and this also takes away your peace. Judging a situation is appropriate for one to self protect but not for one to demean or try to have power over another, there is no benefit in this, only upset and disharmony.

   Next time you feel you are not been listened to or unappreciated, stop and remember who you are and what you want to achieve. Instead of shouting to be heard, try saying "I feel that you are not listening to me and I am a little upset". or "What you did just  really hurt my feelings", the response you receive is what you can work with.