Friends, Lovers, and other Strangers
Who are those people that you
associate yourself with every day? Why do you get involved with them and how do
they fit into your life?
It is the purpose of life
to find itself and to experience itself in the physical world. Life does not
need to learn anything but "is" simply to experience all aspects of its self.
So who are these people
that you have brought into your life or not? If you have your own circle of
family, friends, and associates; why do you need strangers and what do they all
have in common with you? What is the real value in a relationship with people,
animals or objects; yes objects. Most of us spend more time with objects than we
do with other living creatures. Why is that, and is it a good thing; does it
work for us to spend our quality time with things?
To answer all the
questions with one statement, I would explain that we live in a relative world;
we are "this or that" relative to something else. Because life only knows that
it "is," it seeks to find out "what" it is, just as an infant seeks to find
itself relative to its surroundings.
When you are born and you
begin to see, you are aware that you are one with your surroundings. As you
begin to explore your body you begin to notice some differences and similarities
between yourself, your crib, and the creatures who come to visit and talk to
you. These things which surround you give you definition and at this point in
your life, you realize that they are bigger, more powerful than you, and for the
most part; out of your reach. From your perspective, they are nameless objects
that taste, feel, smell, make noises, and look a certain way.
But what are they in
relationship to you? Do they define you or are you defining them? The truth is
that they are all part of you; they give you definition. You are alone in this
world as a nameless and formless life-force that seeks to define itself. You are
creating a new world in which you are the only living creature. The others are
aspects of yourself that have come before you and are here now to help you
experience what you will know as life.
Your parents are part of
you who allowed you to experience being born, an infant, child and finally an
adult. Before you could explain your environment, they did it for you, and early
in your life of innocence, you accepted it completely as their truth and yours.
For the first few years of your life you have been experiencing trust. One of
the grandest aspects of physical life is distance and time. Once you were part
of what surrounded you; now there is space and time between the things you know
Your family has given you
their truth and defined who you are in relationship to what they believe
themselves to be. Now for the rest of your life, you will use others and your
environment to define yourself and you will begin to replace their truth with
your own. You will experience life according to you. You will define life itself
through your experiences, and in relationship to all things.
You are a son or daughter
in relationship to a parent. You are a brother or sister in relationship to
other siblings. You are a friend, lover, husband or wife, Good Samaritan,
killer, rapist, thief, benefactor in kind with others. Without these people you
would be nothing, nameless and alone. These people all give you the same thing.
The gift that all strangers bring you is "opportunity." They are all different
aspects of yourself with an opportunity for you to interact with yourself as
"this or that."
If you imagine yourself
as a good or bad child; your parents give you that opportunity. If you imagine
yourself as a good or bad sibling; your sister or brother offers you that
experience. Your friends are there to allow you to "be" or define yourself as
being one thing or another.
Your lover or spouse
offers you an opportunity to experience yourself in a close, intimate
relationship where there are fewer opportunities for real deception unless you
are deceiving yourself.
The most challenging and
rewarding relationships are with those who are the closest to you, including
your enemies or the ones who give you the greatest grief. The most difficult
relationship is an opportunity for you to experience the best of what you are or
the worst you can be – this relationship brings the greatest gift. It’s easy to
get along with someone who agrees with you and never challenges you. But there
is little room for growth and self awareness. The path beaten down offers little
opportunity for expression. The path riddled with pot holes, rocks, trees, hills
and enemies is opportunity for enlightenment and awareness of whom and what you
really are. It is a chance for life to define itself as one thing or the other.
It is the purpose of life to know itself and express new life.
The rich man who sits at
home alone is without definition or experience – dead in the water. Eventually
he will forget who he really is and will redefine himself in relationship to
what he can see, smell, taste, hear and feel in his little box. Life cannot be
contained or it will move on. It is the same life in me that is in you and life
knows itself through its individualized parts in the physical world. It is the
right hand bonding with the left in acknowledgement of self. This is life, all
things are appropriate and all things must be experienced in order to be
complete. No life is ever wasted and it cannot be destroyed.
In order for a person to
realize his greatest achievements, he must look at all things as opportunities
for definition. All strangers come bearing gifts. Not all gifts are received,
nor do they have to be. They are simply opportunities presented to you so that
you may express yourself in the moment as "this" or "that." Life is all there is
and it interacts with itself in order to experience what it already knows. Life
does not have to go to school, it simply needs to experience.
Roy is a resident of British Columbia, Canada. An international published author, a student of NLP, spiritual philosopher, New Age Light Worker, Teacher and Phenomenologist. Roy's books and articles are thought provoking, and designed to empower your imagination.
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