Good morning Joseth, good morning Roy.
Roy, forgiveness is the highest demonstration of one’s power. It is not a sign of weakness, albeit one of mankind’s popular beliefs. It is not even a sign of great nobility or selflessness. It takes great courage and strength to forgive someone that has harmed you in some way. It is a greater than human experience, you are going against ego. It takes a great effort.
Forgiveness of self is seldom given. Yet this kind of forgiveness is the only thing that will allow you to move on to a higher place of understanding. Without forgiveness, it may seem that you have moved on, but the issue that was never forgiven will just pop up again.
Most of humanity is dysfunctional in this way…mankind is hardest on itself. To have true insight into one’s own ego, you must recognize the mistake, understand that in fact is wasn’t a mistake at all in the higher sense, that it was appropriate for your understanding at the time…learn from it, give it no further energy and move on.
Love and compassion grows with forgiveness. Learn to love and forgive yourself so that you may pass that on to others. Everything that you do, every action that you take is a message to you, a symbol of were you are along your evolutionary path. In speaking to yourself you might say, "So I screwed up, this is my thought process now, I thought I was farther along, I won’t make that mistake again." Notice how you are thinking at this time, think about where you want to be. You just had a wake up call. It’s just another sign along the road that is telling you where you really are along your journey.
Always be sincere in your forgiveness for yourself and others, or don’t forgive. When you lie to yourself or another, you deny who you are, unless you see yourself as a liar. Denial of self is the worst that you can do for yourself or another.
Forgiveness, not intentioned or coming from a place of guilt is not forgiveness, you can not ever fool yourself. This kind of response builds up resentment for the person you forgave and more anger towards yourself for doing it. Do not forgive another because you want to demonstrate superiority over them, it just belittles you and clearly demonstrates denial and who you are.
True forgiveness raises your vibrational level, it is cleansing and uplifting. It puts you back on track. There is also another bonus in there for you. There is a bonding effect between you and the one forgiven that you will be able to cash in on later…especially if it is yourself. Forgiveness becomes a boost and not an anchor on your trip. Every time you forgive honestly it’s like getting a go past "GO" card and collecting $200.00.
Set yourself free from this dysfunction. Take back your power and demonstrate it wisely. Then seek to give it away by empowering others to do the same. You always get back more than you give. You can not get back that you gave away, unless you give it away in the first place.
Enjoy the feeling of true forgiveness, practice it everyday, and feel the power that was yours flow back to you, as you forgive.
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