Love and relationship, defines mankind’s position on the evolutionary path. Man is in relationship with everything in his environment. There is no other way that he could exist in the physical world. The purpose of relationship or relativity is to determine or define who you are. You are cold relative to hot. You are hungry relative to being full. You are sad relative to happy, etc.

   Mankind, enters into relationships with another in order to define him/herself. Man chooses his relationship with another because it re-affirms or enhances the qualities within himself in relationship to another. For instance, mans tradition role as provider is in relationship to women’s role as nurturer. Man has always reassured his manliness by maintaining this duality and providing. This is the way he has seen himself for millennia. Both man’s and women’s roles have supported the other.

   Few of the species has truly understood this concept of relationship. Intimate relationships are an opportunity and are entered into selfishly at some level of consciousness. They allow us opportunity to discover ourselves, redefine and modify how we see ourselves in a caring, loving and safe environment. It can be a time of accelerated personal growth, when considered from this point of observation and experience.

   Physical love, is not the best reason for entering into any intimate relationship. This kind of love can be fleeting, superficial and unrealistic. It can die very quickly and leave the relationship empty. When love relationships are entered into for personal growth, the opportunities never stop. Physical love is more of a bonus, and makes the experience more pleasurable. The joy of re-creating yourself is greatly enhanced when shared with another. It is always more pleasurable when a thing is shared with somebody you truly love.

   It is extremely important for those in relationship, to recognize the tremendous potential for personal growth. This makes living together easier and more exciting. Disagreements are thought of differently, when seen as opportunities to explore ones on creative process. How we react to them, gives us great insight into our own level of enlightenment. These disagreements are welcomed by a enlightened person and are desirable. There is little spiritual growth opportunities when both partners are always in complete agreement. In relationship, you experience opportunities for flexibility, compassion and understanding in a safe environment, that you never had before. Without differences, eventually , relationship sours. We settle into a comfort zone that has little opportunity for definition and growth. Eventually, we start looking elsewhere to try and define ourselves. We create something else, outside our current relationship. We become a golf buddy, a drinking partner, a volunteer or workaholic. But eventually an absent partner, whether at home or not.

   The unfortunate thing about relationship, is we deliberately try to become more alike, thus loosing the things about each other, that were once attractive to the other partner. We move away from that which gave us definition, before we bonded. We automatically create someone new, that may be a total stranger to our partner. They become bewildered by this knew person and may turn away from her. As we become more closely assimilated, we can not define ourselves the same way. We gradually grow apart, because there is nothing left for us to explore in the other person. Many times we have become the other person.

   It should never be our purpose in relationships to become just another red "smarty," in the box. Our goal must always be to find growth, in relationship to the other. Support, is the best reason for relationship. Do not seek to have someone dependent on you, but strive to give them independence. Independence and free will to stay or go. Love unconditionally.